Was it something you said—or did—or didn’t do? (It’s usually that last thing).
You can’t help noticing that your mother-in-law acts like she is married to your husband—as if she doesn’t trust you to be a好妻子给他。
And if that weren’t frustrating enough, your husband isn’t willing to talk to his mother about it.
He’d rather you didn’t say anything, either.
After all, what harm can a littlemother-in-law jealousy做？
为什么母亲媳妇？
根据今天心理学当一个人从第三方威胁到有价值的关系威胁时，嫉妒“最常见的是。威胁可能是真实的或想象的。“
沉默的大多数母亲媳妇与他们的女儿媳妇尚未经历过。它没有制作糟糕的行为好的。但对于任何问的人，“为什么母亲媳妇会出现问题？”它可能有助于记住以下内容：
- 她可能会觉得她正在失去她的儿子 - 或在他的生命中失去她的地方;
- 她五月feel less important to him now that he turns to you for comfort;
- 她五月be悲伤的损失of the close relationship she had with her son;
- 或者她可能会感到沮丧，她看到这种关系中所看到的变化;
- 她五月feel threatened if her son takes your side (instead of hers) in an argument.
Never assume you know what’s going on in your mother-in-law’s head. Her思想和观点是她自己，思维阅读没有帮助。
For now, we’re focusing on identifying jealous behavior.
What you do about it is something for you and your spouse to discuss.
13个嫉妒婆婆的特征
Look for the following 13 signs of a jealous mother-in-law. Whatever her reasons, it’s best to identify the behaviors you’d like to stop.
她很快责怪你。
她对任何可能表明她儿子有缺陷的事情都很盲目。你们两个之间发生了什么问题您的fault.
如果你们两个之间的事情并不完美，首先，她想知道关于它的一切。如果她无法从儿子里获得细节，她可能会挑战你解释原因he seems unhappy。
And she’ll turn whatever information she can get into proof she was right about you.
2. She’s rude or dismissive to you—or ignores you completely.
She seems determined to see you in anegative light。She’s either dismissive or downright rude in her responses to you—if she responds at all.
She might even ignore you to see how you respond.
If you angrily confront her, she can complain to her son about您的behavior toward她。Make sure you and your spouse are on the same page.
当你不同意她时，她希望你的丈夫带着她的一面。
If she does turn a disagreement into a battle between you, she expects her son (your husband) to side with her. After all, they’ve faced fiercer battles together before you came into his life.
如果他如此忘恩负义，以反对她，那么你进一步证明你毒害了她的儿子对她。You’ve这样做，因为她可能会指出。
她扮演受害者。
她五月feellike a victim. From her perspective, you’ve manipulated her son into taking your side against hers.
Either there are two victims—she and her son—or just one. And if she’s the odd one out, she’ll likely blame you for that and try to garner sympathy with her son.
如果这不起作用，她可能会撤回她的儿子会在她之后追求。
她（经常）批评你的脸。
She’ll make snide or subtly disparaging remarks about your clothes, your cooking, your parenting or housekeeping skills, etc. Nothing is off-limits. If she sees anything that isn’t perfect or that one of her son’s exes did better, she’ll be sure to let you know.
即使她没有公开批评你的脸，她也会找到一种方法来给每个痛苦的回味。
6. She badmouths you to her husband.
It doesn’t take much to get her talking about you behind your back. If her son doesn’t shut her down immediately–or if he tries to argue every negative point she tries to make–she’ll keep at it until he tells her to stop.
And even if he does, she’ll likely renew her attacks after a brief hiatus. She still sees it as her job to protect him—or to keep him under她控制。
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7. She badmouths you to your kids—then asks them to keep it a secret.
你的一个孩子们对你们相信，奶奶对你说了一些事情，然后告诉他们保持秘密。当然，你很愤怒。她有no让孩子放在那个位置的权利。
告诉你的丈夫。然后让你的婆婆知道你不能相信她和孩子孤单孤独，直到她可以赢得你的信任。
8.她煤光使您提出质疑您对现实的抓地力。
Call her out for something, and she denies or explains it away as something innocent. Then she’ll use guilt to bully you into a corner.
她会否认，然后责怪你所看到或听到的。她会投射你指责她身边的东西。
她会继续保持问题，直到你开始质疑自己的判断。
9. She elevates passive-aggressive behavior to an art form.
She uses sarcasm to embarrass or belittle you. Or she’ll use subtle (or not so subtle) digs to undermine your confidence or target one of your insecurities. She’s picked up a few things she can use against you without being confrontational or overtly abusive.
Too bad it doesn’t make her company any easier to bear. In fact, you’d almost rather she was more direct.
10.她不尊重你的界限。
Maybe she comes to visit without so much as calling ahead. Or perhaps she shares your personal information with others without asking you first. She keeps pushing to see how far she can go you before you draw the line.
一旦你这样做，她就不会安静地回来。她可能会通过抱怨你的丈夫来利用你的硬线方法反对你。
11.她从社会计划中排除了你。
Her son and grandkids are more than welcome, but you? Well, you probably have somewhere else to be. Or, surely, you wouldn’t be interested in spending time with她。
After all, you get her son and grandkids most of the time. She needs her Grandma fix. And, as she says, it’s not healthy for your kids toalways在他们的妈妈身边。
当然，这不适用于她。
12.她总是试图控制你。
这是你或她;它不可能都是。你敢于改变她和她儿子之间的动态。她总是知道他喜欢的东西，是什么让他开心。你是新的。而且你正在靠她的方式。所以，她会收回她可以的任何控制。
不管她做什么,她会利用自己的影响力persuade her son that she’s in the right.
13. She’s always trying to get her son’s attention (yours, not so much).
她经常叫他，邀请him过度访问，并确实在他的生命中保持永久存在。但是，她没有那么动力，包括包括你。她宁愿在没有你身边的情况下引起注意，分散他的注意力。
她越来越多的关注，她可能对他的影响越多。
How Do You Know If You’re Mother-in-Law Is Jealous of You?
现在你熟悉了一个迹象jealous mother-in-law, maybe you already know the answer to this question.
If you’re still unsure, look for the following clues your mother-in-law is jealous of you:
- 她总是将你（不利地）与儿子的前任进行比较;
- When it comes to you, she always finds something to criticize;
- 她不包括家庭聚会;
- 当她必须（而且你能感受到斗争）时，她只是礼貌;
- 她忽略了你，并与别人谈论，好像你甚至没有。
然而嫉妒她可能是你，她的消极行为并不是真的关于你。她可能只允许自己看到她对你不喜欢的事情，但这是你对与儿子的关系的影响，她最怨恨。
当你和她谈谈时，要记住这一点，这是至关重要的。如果您成为个人，您只会扩大差距。你对她的了解越多，你和你的丈夫更容易决定如何与她交谈以及该怎么做。
现在你知道一个嫉妒的婆婆的不平淡无奇的特征，哪些人为你争辩？本周你会做些什么不同的？